Love ♡

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The word “love” can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Many other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that in English are denoted as “love”; one example is the plurality of Greek words for “love” which includes agape and eros. Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus doubly impede the establishment of a universal definition.

Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn’t love (antonyms of “love”).

Love as a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like) is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy). As a less-sexual and more-emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust. As an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is sometimes contrasted with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships or platonic love. (Further possible ambiguities come with usages “girlfriend”, “boyfriend”, “just good friends”).

Abstractly discussed, love usually refers to an experience one person feels for another. Love often involves caring for, or identifying with, a person or thing (cf. vulnerability and care theory of love), including oneself (cf. narcissism). In addition to cross-cultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, although the prior existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry.

The complex and abstract nature of love often reduces the discourse of love to a thought-terminating cliché. Several common proverbs regard love, from Virgil’s “Love conquers all” to The Beatles’ “All You Need Is Love”.

St. Thomas Aquinas, following Aristotle, defines love as “to will the good of another.”

Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of “absolute value,” as opposed to relative value.

Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that love is “to be delighted by the happiness of another.

“Meher Baba stated that in love there is a “feeling of unity” and an “active appreciation of the intrinsic worth of the object of love.

” Biologist Jeremy Griffith defines love as “unconditional selflessness”.

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What is love?

Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. Love can vary in intensity and can change over time. Love is a mix of feelings and actions that shows a deep liking for someone or something. Romantic love can lead to things such as dating, marriage, and sex, but a person can also feel for friends, such as platonic love, or family.

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What is love at first sight?

Love, at first sight, is a personal experience as well as a common trope or stock convention in literature: a person or character feels an instant, extreme, and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger upon first seeing that stranger. Described by poets and critics since the emergence of ancient Greece, falling in love, at first sight, has become one of the most common tropes in Western fiction.

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Definition of love.

Love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on. It’s unconditional and makes you feel good on the inside. You can trust the person you love and are comfortable around them. … To me, true love is when you can completely be yourself around another person in good times and bad.

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Gender differences

Many studies indicate a positive linear correlation between romantic popularity and physical attractiveness for women more than men. Some studies indicate that men subconsciously seek slenderness and sexiness whereas women seek status, permanence, and affluence before they seek physical attractiveness. People can fall in love over time, but often it is sudden, developing quickly. It is called “falling in love” because it can seem beyond control—a little like falling or tripping over something.

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The Four Types of Love: Some Are Healthy, Some Are Not

Eros: erotic, passionate love.
Philia: love of friends and equals.
Storge: love of parents for children.
Agape: love of mankind.

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What are some of the signs of love?

Researchers have made distinctions between feelings of “liking” and “loving” another person.

According to psychologist Zick Rubin, romantic love is made up of three elements:

Attachment: Needing to be with another person and desiring physical contact and approval.

Caring: Valuing the other person’s happiness and needs as much as your own.


Intimacy: Sharing private thoughts, feelings, and desires with the other person.

Based on this view of romantic love, Rubin developed two questionnaires to measure these variables, known as Rubin’s Scales of Liking and Loving.

While people tend to view people they like as pleasant, love is marked by being devoted, possessive, and confiding in one another.

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Types of Love


Not all forms of love are the same, and psychologists have identified several different types of love that people may experience.

1 These types of love include:

Friendship: This type of love involves liking someone and sharing a certain degree of intimacy.


Infatuation: This is a form of love that often involves intense feelings of attraction without a sense of commitment; it often takes place early in a relationship and may deepen into a more lasting love.


Passionate love: This type of love is marked by intense feelings of longing and attraction; it often involves an idealization of the other person and a need to maintain constant physical closeness.


Compassionate/companionate love: This form of love is marked by trust, affection, intimacy, and commitment.


Unrequited love: This form of love happens when one person loves another who does not return those feelings.

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How to Practice Love


There is no single way to practice love. Every relationship is unique, and each person brings their history and needs. Some things that you can do to show love to the people you care about include:

Be willing to be vulnerable
Be willing to forgive
Do your best and be willing to apologize when you make mistakes
Let them know that you care
Listen to what they have to say
Prioritize spending time with the other person
Reciprocate loving gestures and acts of kindness
Recognize and acknowledge their good qualities
Share things about yourself
Show affection
Show unconditional love
Impact of Love
Love, attachment, and affection have an important impact on well-being and quality of life.

Loving relationships have been linked to:

Lower risk of heart disease
Decreased risk of dying after a heart attack4
Better health habits
Increased longevity5
Lower stress levels
Less depression6
Lower risk of diabetes7
Tips for Cultivating Love
Lasting relationships are marked by deep levels of trust, commitment, and intimacy. Some things that you can do to help cultivate loving relationships include:

Try loving-kindness meditation. Loving-kindness meditation (LKM) is a technique often used to promote self-acceptance and reduce stress, but it has also been shown to promote a variety of positive emotions and improve interpersonal relationships.8 LKM involves meditating while thinking about a person you love or care about, concentrating on warm feelings and your desire for their well-being and happiness.
Communicate. Everyone’s needs are different. The best way to ensure that your needs and your loved one’s needs are met is to talk about them. Helping another person feel loved involves communicating that love to them through words and deeds. Some ways to do this include showing that you care, making them feel special, telling them they are loved, and doing things for them.

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Potential pitfalls

In some cases, loss of wealth can strengthen a couple’s commitment to each other, and in others it can reveal fundamental incompatibilities such as lack of respect, trust or loyalty. An additional important pitfall of love is our own inherent laziness that begins to affect relationships from the very first day.

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With love, you get what you put in

Love is an emotion in action. You can learn how to feel and cultivate your love… First learn and know the different situations of love. Learn how to recognize them when you are feeling them. Then you go and share your love with others.

Love between 2 people can only begin if the interaction is based on truth, trust and respect. That is something you start giving. This is essential to grown mutual love between 2 individuals. If the other person gives you wat you give, then you start feeling love for each other and it can grow…

It is not difficult to understand love, once you know how love works.

It is very easy to fall in love with someone. The difficulty is to stay in love. But if it is difficult to stay in love, that means, that it is not the love of your life. It is a love experience. Love is always beautiful, if it is not beautiful, it is not love. Time to move on. Sometimes, love just fades away. It is better to move on when you don’t feel anything, then when you feel the opposite of love.

Finding your loved one or a relationship…

If you want to find the love of your life, start being aware of your use of the word love. Saying and thinking I want to find the love of my life and not I want a relationship is fundamental. You find what you are looking for.

“Being in a relationship” is a marketing term invented in magazines. Everyone that is not single is in a relationship. To address a large group of people is perfect, but it is too vague to define your situation.

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Conclusion

Love is we need because it gives your life a meaning. It teaches you a lot of lessons that can help you in your life. Love can change you and your life to a better one. Sometimes, it may seem complicated but always remember that giving up is not an option.

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