Heartbreak is bad enough. A heart that witness away whom your feelings aren’t recuperated is a different kind of pain.
She breaks my heart again and again, but I love her. If you cheat, I am not cheating back my loyalty gonna hurt you in the end.
Your love is the best part of my life, there is nobody except you I love to spend time with.
Hey I really miss you.
From, You are my favourite notification!
To, Don’t text me ever again.Its just you and me.
Keep it private until you know its permanent.
The first time I met you, I had no damn idea I’d love you this much. Never run back to what broke you. What kind of drug are you?
I am being addicted day by day.
I miss you so much. Can I call you? I miss your voice.
You are mine. Say it again. You’re all mine. I’m yours.
Dear heart sorry for all the pain.
Remember the words you told me, love me ’til the day I die Surrender my everything ’cause you made me believe you’re mine Yeah, you used to call me baby, now you calling me by name Takes one to know one, yeah You beat me at my own damn game.
You met her the first time, you said Hi to her she replied hey.
You started talking to her. You became friends.
You fall for her after sometimes she accepted.
You first kiss her, you first hug her & first cuddle her.
You first messaged her, she then always replied to you.
After some kisses, hugs & cuddling. She was mad for you.
Completely in love with you & mad for you. She started texting you the whole day and night.
The text messages increased day by day. You start getting irritating with those messages.
You start to think she mad or what. And because of that, you are completely frustrated. You start ignoring her.
She started crying every minute but still wants you. But at that moment, you are too afraid to be in committed.
Then you came to know that things aren’t working. You decided to end the relationship.
When you told her she burst into tears, heartbroken, collapsed & shattered.
But you haven’t felt a single thing like you have a cold heart with no emotions, feelings toward her.
After a long time, you came to know she has trying to overcome but you were already moved on.
You thought it was an attraction but according to her, that moment changed her so-called life.
The guy she trusts, she gave her heart and soul had left him in the middle of nowhere.
Conclusion
In life after several failed relationships when you are alone & need someone to be with whom you want to give your heart and soul & wants the same with her. And realized the past mistakes that you were a fool who has multiple emotionless flashbacks & afraid that you will get the same which you did in the past whom you will love. As it always said Karma what happens to a person happens because they caused it with their actions.
If you can’t marry her then you don’t have a single right over her.
Well, you only need the light when it’s burning low Only miss the sun when it starts to snow Only know you love her when you let her go Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low Only hate the road when you’re missing home Only know you love her when you let her go And you let her go.
April hold my hand and smiled we started walking towards the exit of the college.
There is a distance of 3-4 kilometer from the exit gate to the nearest metro station.
Students usually do take rickshaws to reach the metro station.
I usually walked to the bus station which was hardly one kilometer from the college exit gate and commute from Delhi transport air-conditioned half empty busses.
I remember that day was especially we both hold our hands and walking and I cannot express that emotion on paper, it is difficult to explain.
It can be felt and hard to express through words. If I try to express myself through words. I know I couldn’t do justice to those feelings which we feel inside our body holding the hand of the girl whom you started liking and feeling that liking is converting into love.
If someone asks me can you explain those moments how you feel inside your mind heart and body at that time.
In simple words, I will cancel all my plans if April wants to walk with me holding my hand.
When I saw her first time I didn’t think this could happen between both of us.
But at that moment when we are walking holding our hands. I don’t know it was too soon or silly that I thought I had decided I will spend the rest of my life with you April.
I suddenly stopped while walking when this thought came into my mind. When I stopped suddenly, April looked at me. And I said April I want to say you something.
She said yes. I said please do not react if you don’t want to like what I said.
She said Himanshu now you are scaring me. Please speak up. I said to her while walking a thought came to my mind and I just want to say to you.
She said yes what is it. I said to April I had decided I will spend the rest of my life with you.
She looked at me with her beautiful brown eyes for a minute. Then she said silly this is the most romantic thing I ever heard in my life whom I like and love. Thank you for that I feel the same. She said.
She hugged and I hugged her back at that moment I was hundred percent sure that I am in love with April.
We started walking towards the library. I first saw the Jamia Milia Islamia college library. Saw people studying silently. To be frank I am not a library guy at all. During my under graduation, I went to the library to renew my library cards every year. When I used to sit in peace means to get cooling off AC in the hot summer.
You can find me at the library. I said to April do you wish to study here or do you want to issue a book from here. She said no. She said as you were not interested in attending classes so I thought we can group study at the library. I said to her how that is possible you are a student of commerce and I am a student of political science honors.
She smiled and said yes you are saying right. She said so we can do one thing you can read one of your course books and I will do the same. I said I can do it at my home as well. I have all my books available and do not need anything from the library. She said okay so I will continue reading one of the course books to cover my syllabus and will make notes. I said cool you can continue I will meet you later. She said are you leaving. I said yes.
She made a sad face and said why? I politely answered him when will I do staying here as I had nothing to do here. She said we will talk about something. I said what. She said anything. I said to April listen we can do this over the phone as well once you will decide what you want to talk about so we can discuss it through text. She said no I cannot do this thing over the phone and asked me to come outside of the library. I followed her towards the bench which was planted in the campus garden.
There was no one in the garden at that time. She holds my hand and said I want to share with you something which is bothering me for some weeks. I said what is bothering you April she said I am too afraid to say in front of you. I said don’t be afraid. I asked if it something serious. She said yes. Now I am getting to judge the feelings, emotions, and expressions on her face towards me. But I am not in hurry to say anything first. I could be wrong.
It would be around one-two minutes she had holding my hands and it seems she is gathering the courage to say something strong. I said what is it April say it. Because when she has held my hands those two minutes was like she has held my hands for centuries. At last, I hear some murmured sound. She said Himanshu I said yes. She said Himanshu I like you. I like you very much. I replied thank you.
She started blushing and said I like you when I first saw you so I started liking you very very much which increased day by day. She said I am sorry but do you have a girlfriend. I said no. She smiled at me. She said can I be your girlfriend. I said yes.
April said have you completed your assignments. I said yes & in truth, I have just completed two out of five. It is just I donāt want an English honors girl donāt think I am dumb & lazy. I asked have you completed your assignments she replied yes and I have submitted it already.Ā
I replied great. A boy and girl approaches to April. April introduced be with them. They are classmates of April. The boy worked in media and pursuing a masterās in English honors.
At that time I asked myself what I am doing with my life. I wanted to complete my masterās, then I have to pursue a doctorate & write my thesis to publish.
In thoughts, I want to create history to become greater than
Socrates. Greek philosopher.
Aristotle. Greek philosopher.
Plato. Greek philosopher.
John Locke. English philosopher.
Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel. German philosopher.
Jean-Jacques Rousseau. Swiss-born French philosopher.
David Hume. Scottish philosopher.
But when reality kicks my laziness crushed my dreams. I hope itās happening with 97 percent of the people living in this world.
Aprilās friends said we are going to the canteen. She said you guys carry on I will come here when my friend submitted his assignment.
I said hey April you donāt need to stand here as once I submit my assignments I will leave from the college.
She said why are you donāt take todayās lecture. I said no. In the meantime, some of my classmates came to know, and handshake with me. And went away to the classroom saying meet you in class.
I said okay. April asked you have said to me that you will not attend classes today now you said to those guys that you will coming to class.
I said to April I simply lied to those guys. I donāt like those fucking hypocrites. She said why? I simply said they like Saudi Arabia and its laws and I like India.
She said I donāt understand. I simply said donāt take such stress itās a political science thing. We donāt talk like Charles Dickens and I am not William Shakespeare. I know you like Jane Austenās but we do political science students always fought over the thinkerās views. We do not love the subject like you guys. I said I am a philosopher with my philosophy.
She said wow you are talked like a philosopher. She said if you are not going to attend classes can we go to the library. I said okay. She said letās go.
I was sitting at my home & I got a text saying hey, Al Pacino how are you? This side Sharon stone. I replied I am great. How are you? She replied saying good & asked are you coming to the college this week to submit your assignments? I replied yes.Ā
She said okay so what time you will come she asked. I replied around 11 am which means I have no idea which time I will be reached.Ā Ā
You guys were thinking what the shit is going on. Is this is a normal story to tell? The answer is I donāt know. I am just sharing this story.
So back to the story guys, I havenāt made my assignments till I got a text from April. As in reality, I am a very lazy guy from my childhood.Ā
It is just not that I am too lazy it is just in which a task is given to me and there is no deadline or I think it is not important now. I will do later that task I always neglected to do it later due to my laziness.Ā
So somehow I reached completing two assignments and submitted another 3 assignments later which cost me 1500 rupees plus extra to make a demand draft. Which is another story which I will tell you somehow later.Ā
Conclusion my laziness cost me 1500 rupees. So as I manage to complete two assignments which I made by reviewing points from Wikipedia, & finding notes with the help of study material of Jamia Milia Islamia & Indra Gandhiās national open university books.Ā
It was Saturday morning, I wake up took my bag went to the bus station. Caught the bus for Lajpat Nagar. I never get a seat while going to college & somehow I got lucky to get a seat in the middle of the journey.Ā
I have always had bad luck that always a senior citizen, uncle, or aunty came and stand next to my seat which results in me have to vacant the seat.Ā
On the bus journey, my time pass was to listen to music. Now you guys were thinking I have music taste of Punjabi, Bollywood at that time. No at that time I used to listen to English, Spanish pop, rock, and rap music.Ā
So once I caught the bus at the Saturday morning. I took the ticket from the bus conductor. I have got a call from April. Hey, are you coming to college today? I said yes I am on my way to college. She said okay so meet you at college. I replied okay and disconnected the call.Ā
As usual, I drop at Lajpat Nagar bus station. Waited for the bus that drops me at Jamia college. I have waited around 15-20 minutes but no luck.Ā
In between one bus came but it was fully packed and I always neglect buses if it was fully packed with people.
I take an autorickshaw for the college and reached college in 10 minutes from Lajpat Nagar to Jamia college gate number 17.
I started walking at the center of distance learning, where the may I help you counterman asked me to come from the backside which I did.
In the meantime, I have got a call from April. She said where are you? I said in the college and I asked where are you? She said at the end of the backside of the canteen college & said come here fast.
I said okay. I asked the may I help you, counterman, where I have to submit the political science master first-year assignments.
He guided me to go to the backside of the canteen. I started walking towards the backside of the college and upon reaching there I start seeing people copying assignments with others and some of them are making fresh assignments sitting in the park of the college. Some are in the queue submitting their college assignments.
I also lined up in the queue for submitting my only two assignments out of five. I heard a voice hey Al Pacino.
I turn around to look & I have seen a smiling face approaches me it was April. Once she shouted hey Al Pacino. People in the queue starting to seeing me.
She reached me and raise her hand towards me and I did the same and we handshake. I see a blush on her face & after ten seconds I take my hand down. I said how are you? She said I am good & asked how are you? I said I am excellent.
Hate is an effect: It involves a feeling, which can become a sustained, pervasive mood.
Hate is for harm: The effect does not just involve aversion, repugnance, disvaluing. It is a desire for harm to or the non-existence of the hated object.
Hate expresses itself in action: When one hates, possesses means, and doesnāt choose otherwise, the hatred flows into attitudes, decisions, discourse, and even hostile actions.
Hate lasts and remains: Genuine hate is not a fleeting, momentary condition. Unless something changes the situation or person, hate continues and may grow and consolidate, over time.
Hate has its reasons: While at some level, hate may seem completely irrational, spontaneous, or even random, considered as an oriented effective response, it does possess its reasons, its logic, its explanations. In being carried out in action, hate also involves some practical reasoning.
intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury. b : extremeĀ dislikeĀ or disgust : antipathy, loathing had a greatĀ hateĀ of hard work.
Hate, abhor, detest, abominate imply feeling intense dislike or aversion toward something. Hate, the simple and general word, suggests passionate dislike and a feeling of enmity: to hate autocracy.
According to Aristotle, Hatred is directed to classes of people (gene). The examples Aristotle uses ā āthieves and informersā ā hardly exhaust the range of classes, types, that people (or at least certain groups) tend to hate, feeling and expressing hatred against them, taking action against them when possible or necessary.
Sigmund Freud defined hate as an ego state that wishes to destroy the source of its unhappiness, stressing that it was linked to the question of self-preservation.[7]Donald Winnicott highlighted the developmental step involved in hatred, with its recognition of an outside object: “As compared to magical destruction, aggressive ideas and behaviour take on a positive value, and hate becomes a sign of civilization”.[8]
In his wake, Object relations theory has emphasized the importance of recognizing hate in the analytic setting: the analyst acknowledges his hate (as revealed in the strict time-limits and the fee charged),[9] which in turn may make it possible for the patient to acknowledge and contain their previously concealed hate for the analyst.
Adam Phillips went so far as to suggest that true kindness is impossible in a relationship without hating and being hated so that an unsentimental acknowledgment of interpersonal frustrations and their associated hostilities can allow real fellow-feeling to emerge.
Love and hate are similar in being directed toward another person because of who he or she is. Despite this similarity, the two seem like polar opposites. Very often when we love someone, we want them to thrive. When we hate someone, we are more likely to wish they would suffer ā or at least change who they are.
Hatred is based on the perception of the other, but also has a strong relationship with ourselves, with our personal history, and its effects on our personality, feelings, ideas, beliefs, and especially our identity. Certain adversity in our lives can trigger and intensify hatred: jealousy, failure, guilt and so on.
The first records of hate come from before the 900s. It ultimately comes from the Old English verb hatian and is related to the Dutch haten, the Old Norse hata, and the German hassen.
Hatred is an angry or resentful emotional response to certain people or ideas.
Hate, like love, takes different shapes and forms in different languages.[16] While it may be fair to say that one single emotion exists in English, French (haine), and German (Hass), hate is historically situated and culturally constructed: it varies in the forms in which it is manifested. Thus a certain relationless hatred is expressed in the French expression J’ai la haine, which has no precise equivalent in English; while for English-speakers, loving and hating invariably involve an object, or a person, and therefore, a relationship with something or someone, J’ai la haine (literally, I have hate) precludes the idea of an emotion directed at a person.[17] This is a form of frustration, apathy and animosity which churns within the subject but establishes no relationship with the world, other than an aimless desire for destruction.
French forms ofĀ anti-AmericanismĀ have been seen as a specific form of cultural resentment, registering joy-in-hate.
Hate is a deep and emotional aversion. It can be directed against individuals, groups, entities, objects, behaviors, or ideas. Hatred is often associated with feelings of anger, disgust, and hostility.
The word āloveā can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Many other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that in English are denoted as āloveā; one example is the plurality of Greek words for āloveā which includes agape and eros. Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus doubly impede the establishment of a universal definition.
Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isnāt love (antonyms of āloveā).
Love as a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like) is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy). As a less-sexual and more-emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust. As an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is sometimes contrasted with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships or platonic love. (Further possible ambiguities come with usages āgirlfriendā, āboyfriendā, ājust good friendsā).
Abstractly discussed, love usually refers to an experience one person feels for another. Love often involves caring for, or identifying with, a person or thing (cf. vulnerability and care theory of love), including oneself (cf. narcissism). In addition to cross-cultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, although the prior existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry.
Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. Love can vary in intensity and can change over time. Love is a mix of feelings and actions that shows a deep liking for someone or something. Romantic love can lead to things such as dating, marriage, and sex, but a person can also feel for friends, such as platonic love, or family.
Love, at first sight, is a personal experience as well as a common trope or stock convention in literature: a person or character feels an instant, extreme, and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger upon first seeing that stranger. Described by poets and critics since the emergence of ancient Greece, falling in love, at first sight, has become one of the most common tropes in Western fiction.
Love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on. Itās unconditional and makes you feel good on the inside. You can trust the person you love and are comfortable around them. ā¦ To me, true love is when you can completely be yourself around another person in good times and bad.
Many studies indicate a positive linear correlation between romantic popularity and physical attractiveness for women more than men. Some studies indicate that men subconsciously seek slenderness and sexiness whereas women seek status, permanence, and affluence before they seek physical attractiveness. People can fall in love over time, but often it is sudden, developing quickly. It is called āfalling in loveā because it can seem beyond controlāa little like falling or tripping over something.
Not all forms of love are the same, and psychologists have identified several different types of love that people may experience.
1 These types of love include:
Friendship: This type of love involves liking someone and sharing a certain degree of intimacy.
Infatuation: This is a form of love that often involves intense feelings of attraction without a sense of commitment; it often takes place early in a relationship and may deepen into a more lasting love.
Passionate love: This type of love is marked by intense feelings of longing and attraction; it often involves an idealization of the other person and a need to maintain constant physical closeness.
Compassionate/companionate love: This form of love is marked by trust, affection, intimacy, and commitment.
Unrequited love: This form of love happens when one person loves another who does not return those feelings.
There is no single way to practice love. Every relationship is unique, and each person brings their history and needs. Some things that you can do to show love to the people you care about include:
Be willing to be vulnerable Be willing to forgive Do your best and be willing to apologize when you make mistakes Let them know that you care Listen to what they have to say Prioritize spending time with the other person Reciprocate loving gestures and acts of kindness Recognize and acknowledge their good qualities Share things about yourself Show affection Show unconditional love Impact of Love Love, attachment, and affection have an important impact on well-being and quality of life.
Loving relationships have been linked to:
Lower risk of heart disease Decreased risk of dying after a heart attack4ļ»æ Better health habits Increased longevity5ļ»æ Lower stress levels Less depression6ļ»æ Lower risk of diabetes7ļ»æ Tips for Cultivating Love Lasting relationships are marked by deep levels of trust, commitment, and intimacy. Some things that you can do to help cultivate loving relationships include:
Try loving-kindness meditation. Loving-kindness meditation (LKM) is a technique often used to promote self-acceptance and reduce stress, but it has also been shown to promote a variety of positive emotions and improve interpersonal relationships.8 LKM involves meditating while thinking about a person you love or care about, concentrating on warm feelings and your desire for their well-being and happiness. Communicate. Everyoneās needs are different. The best way to ensure that your needs and your loved oneās needs are met is to talk about them. Helping another person feel loved involves communicating that love to them through words and deeds. Some ways to do this include showing that you care, making them feel special, telling them they are loved, and doing things for them.
In some cases, loss of wealth can strengthen a coupleās commitment to each other, and in others it can reveal fundamental incompatibilities such as lack of respect, trust or loyalty. An additional important pitfall of love is our own inherent laziness that begins to affect relationships from the very first day.
Love is an emotion in action. You can learn how to feel and cultivate your loveā¦ First learn and know the different situations of love. Learn how to recognize them when you are feeling them. Then you go and share your love with others.
Love between 2 people can only begin if the interaction is based on truth, trust and respect. That is something you start giving. This is essential to grown mutual love between 2 individuals. If the other person gives you wat you give, then you start feeling love for each other and it can growā¦
It is not difficult to understand love, once you know how love works.
It is very easy to fall in love with someone. The difficulty is to stay in love. But if it is difficult to stay in love, that means, that it is not the love of your life. It is a love experience. Love is always beautiful, if it is not beautiful, it is not love. Time to move on. Sometimes, love just fades away. It is better to move on when you donāt feel anything, then when you feel the opposite of love.
Finding your loved one or a relationshipā¦
If you want to find the love of your life, start being aware of your use of the word love. Saying and thinking I want to find the love of my life and not I want a relationship is fundamental. You find what you are looking for.
āBeing in a relationshipā is a marketing term invented in magazines. Everyone that is not single is in a relationship. To address a large group of people is perfect, but it is too vague to define your situation.
Love is we need because it gives your life a meaning. It teaches you a lot of lessons that can help you in your life. Love can change you and your life to a better one. Sometimes, it may seem complicated but always remember that giving up is not an option.
Himanshu Singh 
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